Shine Counselling &Life Coaching

Counselor/Life Coach Practitioner

There’s a widely-known psychological study, conducted by Walter Mischel in the 1960s, which explored delayed gratification in four-year olds. One at a time, children were seated in front of a marshmallow and the researcher told them that they could eat the marshmallow right then, but if they waited for the researcher to return from a brief errand, they would receive a second marshmallow. Some kids ate the marshmallow within seconds, but others waited up to 20 minutes for the researcher to return. 14 years later, the researchers found that the children who had delayed gratification were more trustworthy, more dependable, more self-reliant and more confident than the children who had not controlled their impulses.

Trust is a complex concept that exists on different levels; for example, you may trust your boss for being fair to schedule your holiday and treat you well, but you may not necessarily trust your boss for your stability and permanency at work. Another example may be that you may trust your partner with your life, your home, your belongings and money, but you may not trust them to remember the dates and do other stuffs.

It is said that “When you throw a baby in the air, she laughs because she knows you will catch her”. That is called trust. I believe the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our relationships, and the quality of our relationships depends upon the quality of trust we have build in those relationship. Trust can’t be bought or sold. Even if we consider ourselves trustworthy people, we often forget that trust isn’t a given standard; we are sole responsible for winning and earning the trust of other people. However, because we’re always more focused on how others are for us, we tend to overlook and forget to introspect how we are for other people and thus never consider our impression we leave on them about our trustworthiness.

Trust is only developed over time after we have demonstrated to other persons that we are consistent and genuine for them. The world is run by trust. Trust pervades nearly every aspect of our daily lives. It is fundamentally important in the healthy functioning of all of our relationships with others. It’s the glue that bonds us to each other, that strengthens relationships and turns threads of connections into steel cables. Like four-year olds trusting that there will be a second marshmallow, can your people trust with your words, attitudes and behaviors towards others and considered them as bonds?

Pradip Parajuli

I am Pradip Parajuli. I have been in helping profession since 11 years. To tell the truth, I am a new Life Coach practitioner. Yet prior to becoming a Life Coach, I spent 5 years working as a Counselor; and before that I used to work as a Social Worker and Program Manager in a reputed International Non-governmental Organization. I am practicing Counseling as well as Life Coaching. From the get-go, I loved life coaching. As I kept going and trained in Counseling, Hypnotherapy, NLP, Life Coaching (Beginner to Advanced), my belief that I had found my niche in life was cemented. That niche is to help people get unstuck and find more purpose and enjoyment in their lives.
I genuinely do understand when clients say they’re looking for a change, but don’t know what it is yet or how to achieve it. Because I have been there, done that and thankfully was lucky enough to walk away to now be doing a job where I never have to think “Thank God it’s Friday (TGIF).”

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