Pradip Parajuli

Psychological Counselor/Life Coach Practitioner

The childhood memory is still vivid in my mind. It was Saturday sunny morning. I was looking out the window and facing my face in front of sun ray. Suddenly, my attention directed towards the sound of a wasp. I observed it– It continued to fly into the window pane. Perhaps, it wanted to be free. Because I was just a child and was very much afraid, I couldn’t free the wasp. It just kept flying at the glass performing the same task in the same way and all the effort went in vain. Literally, the wasp was trapped. After observing the wasp for a few minutes, I went outdoors to play with my friends. In the meantime, I completely forgot about the wasp. On the very next day, I found the  wasp dead. 

Now I am reminiscing the incident of that wasp. It was unable to free itself because it was performing the same task in the same way and expecting the different results (freedom). Many of us want to acquire the results, but we do not change our rout. In other words, we perform the same tasks, but expect different results. We must change in order to get different results in life. A wise man once said that we can become everything in life, but we can become what we are now.

What we are now signified our ‘self-image.’ Our ‘self-image’ is an accumulation of every attitudes and opinions that we have been told about ourselves since birth. And the ‘self-image’ is determined by our ‘belief system’. Our beliefs were being formed from the moment we entered this world. We are all the social creatures. All the subsequent interactions with other humans formed the persons that we are today. We have created, and continue to create, an image of self is based on the attitudes of other people. It is an image that can either help or hinder the development of our potential. 

On the journey of life, ‘experts’ evaluated everything that we did. We often accepted and recorded their opinions as the truth. These experts were our parents, teachers and elders. Now we have grown up and we might operate within the limits of our self-image on the basis of experts’ opinions and evaluations from childhood. Eventually, it becomes our comfort zone, where we feel safe, secure and protected. We accept as it were. We never want to change. Honestly speaking, the comfort life is comfortable to live because we get used to it. Even though the situation is full of pain, poverty and drudgery, people remain in these situations because their self-image and belief system support them there. They feel secure and comfortable in the knowledge that this is what they deserve or are worthy of. 

Remember!! 

Personal Transformation is possible. If you are not satisfied with where you are now, you can change it by changing the route. For that you need to change the belief-system and self-image. 

Life itself is a miracle

Live by Design Not by Default. 

Pradip Parajuli

I am Pradip Parajuli. I have been in helping profession since 11 years. To tell the truth, I am a new Life Coach practitioner. Yet prior to becoming a Life Coach, I spent 5 years working as a Counselor; and before that I used to work as a Social Worker and Program Manager in a reputed International Non-governmental Organization. I am practicing Counseling as well as Life Coaching. From the get-go, I loved life coaching. As I kept going and trained in Counseling, Hypnotherapy, NLP, Life Coaching (Beginner to Advanced), my belief that I had found my niche in life was cemented. That niche is to help people get unstuck and find more purpose and enjoyment in their lives.
I genuinely do understand when clients say they’re looking for a change, but don’t know what it is yet or how to achieve it. Because I have been there, done that and thankfully was lucky enough to walk away to now be doing a job where I never have to think “Thank God it’s Friday (TGIF).”

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