Shine Counselling &Life Coaching

Counselor/Life Coach Practitioner

I happened to watch the movie named “Captain Fantastic” a year ago. It is an astonishing movie about an unconventional father and his six children who live in the wilderness of the Pacific Northwest. I know this movie has some flaws, like treating children as both military and Ph.D.Canditates,  in the scenario of modern society. But I really admire the father’s role to educate his children. His emphasis doesn’t solely focus on Academic Degree and Academic Stuffs, but also in Life Skills and Practical Education.

I believe that many ‘educated’ people never succeed in life because they think the Academic Degree determines their competency. But the truth is that it doesn’t determine your ability, competency, and skills. Tell me honestly- if you have completed your Degree in 2018 A.D. in an attractive grade, Does that degree define you? Does that define your Skills? Does that define who you are now? Perhaps, not. Education and Intelligence are different things; and so as the Academic Degree.

For decades, other people- parents, teachers, bosses, seniors- consciously and unconsciously gave you the message that you are not good enough. That nothing you do is ever good enough. That you need someone else to validate you and your accomplishments. That you need a piece of paper to prove your worth. And your skills, your values, and your geniuses. Then you go after to achieve good grades and feel inferior if you do not get it.

I want to have your honest answers;

Are all the people having degrees are geniuses?

Are all the Degree Holders are living their life successfully?

Have you found any Intellectual Ignorance among these Degree Holders?

Have you seen any person who lives a dignified life in spite of an Academic Degree?

Your reply would be definitely NO.

Now, the other question:

Have you met any person who is a think tank and is full of knowledge despite of an Academic Degree?

Your reply would be definitely YES.

The psychologists categorize Intelligence in four types, i.e.

  1. Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
  2. Emotional Quotient (EQ)
  3. Social Quotient (SQ)
  4. Adversity Quotient (AQ)

The research has shown that people that have higher EQ, SQ, and AQ tend to go farther in life than those with high IQ but low EQ, SQ, and AQ. Most schools and academic institutions have capitalized on improving IQ levels while EQ, SQ, and AQ are played down.

Let me tell you something extremely important…..

There’s nothing inherently wrong with Certifications and Degrees. You definitely have more power if you have them. If you want some sort of Academic Qualification and Certifications, go ahead and get it. If you receive praise and approval from others because you have them, go ahead and enjoy all of it. But know this: A piece of paper will not transform you into a successful being. In other words, it might not determine your ability, skills, and competency. Acquiring a degree and certification might not define what you have learned or understood. We are all brought to this world as a clean slate and didn’t know how to speak, communicate, and how to establish a connection. We started learning at the time we started breathing.

If you are a learner- ” Commit every single day as a school day. Never assume you know all. Remain humble in your approach towards life and embrace there’s always gonna be those things you don’t know. No matter how much you know or how good you are; your attitude matters a lot. ”

Go and Get the DEGREE- keep in mind that it won’t define your competency.

Pradip Parajuli

I am Pradip Parajuli. I have been in helping profession since 11 years. To tell the truth, I am a new Life Coach practitioner. Yet prior to becoming a Life Coach, I spent 5 years working as a Counselor; and before that I used to work as a Social Worker and Program Manager in a reputed International Non-governmental Organization. I am practicing Counseling as well as Life Coaching. From the get-go, I loved life coaching. As I kept going and trained in Counseling, Hypnotherapy, NLP, Life Coaching (Beginner to Advanced), my belief that I had found my niche in life was cemented. That niche is to help people get unstuck and find more purpose and enjoyment in their lives.
I genuinely do understand when clients say they’re looking for a change, but don’t know what it is yet or how to achieve it. Because I have been there, done that and thankfully was lucky enough to walk away to now be doing a job where I never have to think “Thank God it’s Friday (TGIF).”

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